MEEHL Foundation


By Pamela Redmond Satran


By 30, you should have:

  • 1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
  • 2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
  • 3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
  • 4. A purse, a suitcase and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
  • 5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
  • 6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
  • 7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age—and some money set aside to help fund it.
  • 8. An e-mail address, a voice mailbox and a bank account—all of which nobody has access to but you.
  • 9. A resume that is not even the slightest bit padded.
  • 10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
  • 11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill and a black lace bra.
  • 12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
  • 13. The belief that you deserve it.
  • 14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
  • 15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship and all those other facets of life that do get better.

By 30, you should know:

  • 16. How to fall in love without losing yourself.
  • 17. How you feel about having kids.
  • 18. How to quit a job, break up with a man and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
  • 19. When to try harder and when to walk away.
  • 20. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
  • 21. The names of: the secretary of state, your great-grandmother and the best tailor in town.
  • 22. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
  • 23. How to take control of your own birthday.
  • 24. That you can’t change the length of your calves, the width of your hips or the nature of your parents.
  • 25. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
  • 26. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
  • 27. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs or not flossing for very long.
  • 28. Who you can trust, who you can’t and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
  • 29. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
  • 30. Why they say life begins at 30.

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Debra Meehl

Debra Meehl, DD Pastoral Counselor, DBT Trained Skills Trainer, Board Certified Hypnotist & President, Meehl Foundation Intenselevly Tained DBT Team

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